With her 30 years of experience, Dr. Jan Hoistad is committed to helping people live healthy, grown-up lives. She is committed to helping you go through the difficult transition of separation, divorce, and rebuilding your lives – for the sake of you and your children. If possible, she’ll even help you partner through your divorce and beyond.

First she will arm you with the information you need to explore your options, either individually or together. Dr. Jan is part of a growing community of attorneys, financial experts, parenting specialists, mediators and mental health people who are committed to helping you resolve your disputes and divorce with respect and dignity.

Dr. Jan’s Background                                                       

Dr. Jan Hoistad has 30 years experience as a licensed psychologist, educator, and coach in private practice. She works with individuals and couples at all stages, successfully teaching them to partner—in relationship, as parents, or in preparation for a new relationship. She specializes in helping couples reach new heights of intimacy and love through personal and interpersonal creativity. Many of her clients are unconventional people who lead outwardly mainstream lives, yet seek authentic, fulfilling ways of expressing and deepening themselves.

 In addition to serving as a therapist and coach, Dr. Hoistad conducts workshops and teleseminars. She has appeared on numerous radio shows, local television, and in newspapers and national magazines. She is trained as a Neutral Coach in Collaborative Divorce cases, provides Reconciliation and Divorce therapy, and coaches individuals going through various stages of Alternative Dispute Resolution, custody evaluation, and litigation. Dr. Hoistad received her doctorate from the California School of Professional Psychology and attended the Program On Negotiation at Harvard Law School. She has training in Mediation through Dispute Resolution Services of Minnesota, and is a member of the Minnesota Psychological Association, the Collaborative Law Institute, and the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals. Dr. Hoistad lives in Minneapolis.

Dr. Jan Can Help You to:                                                  

• Find the solutions that are right for you.

• Decide if separation or divorce is the right next step, and then explore how to proceed.

• Work toward reconciliation if you want to try again.

• Work through the emotions and business of divorce together in 5 sessions if divorce your choice.

• Figure out a separation arrangement that works—physically and financially—to give you needed space, as well as time with your kids, whether you are trying to get back together or whether you are proceeding toward a divorce.

• Explore the best ways to care for your children while going through this transition. Help you decide how to tell them what is going on.

• Manage your emotions – while you help your kids.
  To be strategic and accomplish your greater goals-the best for you and you family—versus being reactive to your mate—through coaching.

• Choose and involve the legal, financial, and parenting experts who are consistent with your values; who will work together rather than be litigious, if divorce is the only option.

If you think you want to reconcile - learn more:                

Dr. Jan says:

“No one is born knowing how to have a great relationship, yet 90% of the population seeks committed love at least once.  It is evident that role modeling and serendipity are not enough to create a long lasting and vibrant relationship. Chemistry, timing, and common interests may bring couples together, but they do not guarantee long-term success. At some point all couples stumble upon differences that lead to conflict—criticism, judgment, and impasse.  A mutually accepted vision of partnering and a clear set of tools empower a couple to work in sync with one another and help them to navigate any change or turbulent time in their relationship. The Big Picture Partnering style and the 10 Steps provide just such guidance.”

·         Read about Dr. Jan’s unique approach to partnering and learn the Ten Steps in her new book Romance Rehab: 10 Steps to Rescue your Relationship.

·         Call for your free 20-minute conversation with Dr. Jan to discuss your needs.

·         Schedule your in-person or telephone coaching or counseling session.

·         Out of town individuals or couples can customize an intensive in-person learning experience with Dr. Jan in Minneapolis.

If you’ve done these things you may also want to try

·         Increasing your talking and listening time by using Dr. Jan’s exclusive Regular Talking/Taking Turns formula in PDF format when you sign up for the newsletter.

·         Then talk and listen and learn new things about what your partner is thinking by using Living Your Dreams Together: Conversation Cards for Couples.